What I’m…

Hello Friends! I pray you are all well on this wonderful Friday morning! It looks like it is set to be a beautiful day of sun in Texas, with a high in my hood of 71 degrees.

This weekend, I have just a few things on my agenda that I thought I would share with you.

What I’m Listening To…..

Have you guys ever watched the show, Chrisley Knows Best? If not, it is a crazy funny show following the lives of the Chrisley family. It has been on for quite some time, which I belive is on the USA Network, and that dad, Todd, is a hot mess! Not to mention his mother, Nanny Faye! Anyway, I say all of that to go into the fact that I also listen to their podcast, Chrisley Confessions.

There has been a lot of chatter about what is going on in their lives. Mostly tabloid junk, and they have taken on this platform to help clear the air, lend advise to listeners that call in, and just make themselves relatable as they speak on their beliefs, their family, and their faith. I really enjoy listening to them throughout my work day.

What I’m Watching…..

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I have just come across a new series that has just begun on BET, called American Soul. “American Soul tells the story of Don Cornelius, “his Soul Train dancers, crew and musicians in a cutthroat Hollywood in the 1970s and how they work, play, rise and fall against the backdrop of the show most responsible for the way African-American culture was perceived by the world.”

Again, this is one of those stories that gives my “nosey” all of the satisfaction that it craves. I remember watching Soul Train as a kid, but would not for the life of me have known how things were actually going down with its creator and the folks behind the scenes. Don Cornelius was something else, to say the least! This show has definitely got my attention. You can also check it out on Tuesdays at 8 pm Central on BET.

What I’m Reading….

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I just picked up “Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be”, by Rachel Hollis. I have heard a lot of great things about this author, and look forward to getting in some reading time this weekend. I’ll be sure to post my thoughts once I have completed it, so stay tuned….

In this book, each chapter tackles a different lie Rachel has believed, the authentic examples from her own life illustrating those lies, and then the methods she used (or wish she had used) to defeat those lies. These are big, vulnerable topics like ‘I Should Be Farther Along By Now’ and ‘I Will Never Get Past This’.
Rachel doesn’t want this book to change your life. She wants you to read this book, and then feel strengthened so you change your life.”

I pray you all have a great and hopefully relaxing weekend. I know I plan to.

Be Blessed,

Kellie

My Boy….

This is my #1 Favorite Son!

Since we are already half way through the week, and I have written every post about my cute little family, I have decided to dub this entire week, “The Week of My Peeps!” I enjoy sharing a little bit of my favorite people with you all, as well as giving them a little shout out.

Today brings me to this handsome young man. Donovan is our 1 and only boy, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Honestly, I do not think that I ever had the capacity to share my heart with another little boy, as Donovan has filled it all up with all of his Son-ny Goodness! God definitely had the right plan in mind when he sent me this tiny 7 lb 13 oz bundle of wonderful!

Mother/Son Wedding Swag

He is in his Freshman year of High School, and one thing I will say is that I never worry about him “finding his way.” He has that great mix of Ma & Da, as he calls us, that allows for him to know no strangers, and hang with the best of them! Weight lifting and football are his vices, and he has passed us both in height. I do not know what he thinks that means, or if we even care that he is taller than us. Doesn’t change a thang, Son!

After talking mad trash about how the Clippers were going to beat the Mavs.
#NOPE

Donovan is so much fun. He keeps us laughing, and sometimes makes us crazy, but he is always the life of the party. The little sisters adore him, as he is the source of their entertainment. There is always a bunch of commotion when they all get going.

Look at them TWINNING back there!

We are so excited to see what the future holds for our boy. I know GOD has got big plans for him. To Infinity & Beyond, Young Man! Mama loves ya!

At his favorite spot

Proverbs 1:8-9 Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.

Deep Thoughts with Kellie: I mentioned yesterday that it is important to give your children QT, even when you may think that they think they are too big or too old for it. I have vowed to at least once a month take time to plan a “date”, if you will, with each one of my kiddos. It will be something that allows us to make those little inside joke memories, and something that maybe one day, they will share with their own children.

Do you plan one on one time with your Littles, or even your Bigs? Something to think about….

Be BLESSED,

Kellie

Kori….

So there’s this girl… who calls me Mama….and I loves me some HER!

Our little Kori is one of the sweetest kids you will ever meet. She is always willing to help, is a friend to the friendless, loves the Lord, and works her hardest to try and keep her little sister out of trouble. (Not a small feat!)

We call her Princess Sassafrass
Reppin’ those Steelers

In our early days, we had quite a few academic struggles. Daddy and I sought out to get her the added assistance that she needed, not to mention, preaching the importance of an education. Now, this girl is on FI-YA! She sets herself up everyday after school to study at our dining room table after her daily chores are done. She has been cranking out the A’s and B’s, and says there is no stopping her now! She makes me so proud! I always say that if I were to ever start my own business, she would be my partner, RIGHT TODAY!!! That girl gits ‘er done!

Psalm 127:3-4 3 Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him. 4 Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. 

The one thing that is hard for me, is that she is also the epitomy of the Middle Child. Remember when we discussed the traits of the dominating First Child? Well, she falls right into what has been known as the Middle Child Syndrome. She is so easy going and doesn’t ask for much, so it is so easy for her to get lost in the shuffle. Here is something that I read recently:

Middle Child Syndrome” is very real. Middle kids bemoan their fate as being ignored and often grow resentful of all the parental attention given to the oldest and the baby of the family, and feel short-shifted. … Middle children have to try a little harder to “be heard” or get noticed.

That just hurts my heart. My oldest is pretty much grown & gone, so her needs are quite a bit different. I have 1 son, that at this point is the oldest in the house, and the only boy, so there is that. And my baby girl is in Kindergarten, and commands the stage! So a couple of weeks ago, I came across a Facebook post for a free community event, and immediately thought of a “K Day” outing that Kori has been saying we should have. So this is what happened…..

Cake Ball Class!!!

Chef Kori
“Yeah! I did that!”
Excuse my rained on hair.

We had a great time, just my girl and I! We chatted about how Big Brother would have loved to have joined us, and he would have eaten all of his cake balls before we got home. We talked about how Daddy loves white chocolate, and how Little Sister would have eaten all of the icing before we got started. When we got home, she and I ate our dinner and it was her turn to do dishes. Little Sister wanted to chat, but Kori told her that she needed to get done and would talk with her later. I chuckle as I think about her exact words to her being, “Drew, let me get done, then you can talk your lips off”. LOL!

Deep Thoughts with Kellie…..At the end of the day, we have to make time for these babies. Just like when I discussed needing Us time as couples, these babies crave the 1 on 1 time with their parent as well. As I write this, I have a little date planned with my Big Boy this week. The days are long with work, chores, and taxi servicing, but THEY are our future, and we have got to take time and nurture that.

Be Blessed,

Kellie

Let me tell you bout my Beeest Frieeend…

Today is all about the Hubs and how much I looooove him!

Mark 10:6-9 6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” 

Damon and I have now now been married for 16 years. He is one of my greatest blessings. We were practically babies when we got married at the ages of 24 & 25, and have LITERALLY grown together. I would not choose to do life with anyone else. He is my absolute ROCK during the hard times, and when my crazy is hanging out, he helps me to get it tucked right back in! He is my best friend, my confidant, the ying to my yang, my road dog, the Clyde to my Bonnie. The main thing that I HAVE to stress, is that the KEY to our union is the fact that we put God first! Without Him, we would have no marriage. If HE is not in the center, you will surely crumble, fail, crash, & burn.

Hebrews 13:4-12 4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. 5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” 6 So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” 7 Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.

We have 4 beautiful, strong willed, funny, charismatic, loving children, 3 sweet dogs, and a partridge in a pear tree! They bring us so much joy, yet so much headache. Hey… No one EVER said parenting was a cake walk. One day, when we retire and buy our RV, it will be all worth it when we are able to plug in to each one’s house for 3 months out of the year. Free cable/water, electricity. #WINNING


And together, we have these people!
(L to R) Drew, Kori, Kamren, & Donovan
Wedding Swag
Our Vancouver Adventures

Every year, we take what we call a Mama/Daddy Trip… or two. It is the time for us to invest in Us. One day, our kids will be grown and gone and we have to still like each other. It gives us the opportunity to reconnect on a personal and intimate level that sometimes goes untouched when you have a routine of school drop offs, pick ups, soccer practice, early morning football practice, after school track practice pick up, grocery shopping, laundry, not to mention working full time. I don’t know about you all, but did you just get tired reading all of that??? I did, and this is a day to day thing for most families.

It is sad to say, but I have had conversations with numerous people that have had failed marriages, and many have said that it was mainly due to the lack of quality time as a couple. People, we have got to spend time with our spouses. Family time is very important as well, but Grown Folks time is just as important.

In Pittsburgh to watch our beloved Steelers play
Austin Birthday Road Trippin’!

Damon & I have a map of the US on a wall in our room. We pick a place that we want to go, then see what other state/attraction is close enough to drive to, so that we can have a TWOfer (2 trips in 1). Somewhere that once we get to our destination, we can hop in our rental car on day 2 or 3, and be on to our next adventure. We have colorful push pins that document the places we have been. Its kind of Our Jam to plan our little getaways. We usually try to capitalize on a long weekend. You know, some time that you would already be off from work?

Is there somewhere you have been wanting to go? Get a map, some push pins, and get at it! If you are anything like me, plan enough in advance so that your pocket is not hit all at once, and make your traveling dreams come true.

Blessings,

Kellie

What I’m…..

Hey Friends!

Today’s post is a bit light, and not that you necessarily are all to concerned with what I’ve got going on, but I thought I would share what I’m listening to, watching, & reading. Maybe you have been looking for something to try or to get into. Let me know your thoughts. I would love to hear from you.

What I’m Listening too…

I have really gotten into listening to random podcasts lately, and because I am so danggone nosey and intrigued by other peoples lives, I have subscribed to “Oprah’s Master Class, The Podcast.” She has a wide range of celebrities that talk about their pasts, and their journey to stardom. These last 2 episodes, she is actually talking about her own life, and I didn’t realize that I didn’t know some of these things about my girl! I guess everybody has their “stuff”, right?

Another of my faves is, “The Nod” from Gimlet Media. It’s a new podcast about Black culture, that is hosted by 2 of some of the most charismatic people on the air. They have been friends since college, and have a great chemistry. The duo cover all kids of topics, from Purple Drank, to Lavar Burton & his Reading Rainbow days, to the story of the African Soccer Team making it to the F.I.F.A. World Cup for the first time. There are so many things that I have learned listening to them, and the colorful way that they share. They literally keep me LOLing.

What I’m Watching…

So, I am smack dab in the middle of watching Amazon Prime’s “Homecoming.” This is actually a show that was first a podcast that I listened to, and was super excited to hear that it was becoming a show. I will say that as I watch, I am a little disappointed that they didn’t keep the same actors that they used for the podcast that they are for the show. They are actual actors, and did a great job. Some of them just don’t seem to fit in my opinion. Oh well. I guess Julia Roberts has a little more grab than Catherine Keener. Who knows…

I have been waiting on the perfect weekend to binge the farewell season of one of my absolute favorite Netlix shows. “Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt.” I am sad to see it go, due to the hilariousness of it all. It is one of those shows were it is almost too whacky, but you can’t help but be entertained. Ellie Kemper as Erin on” The Office” was such a hoot, that I knew I had to check her out on this show, and she didn’t disappoint. You can check out the shows plot below:

“Rescued after 15 years in a cult, Kimmy Schmidt decides to reclaim her life by venturing to New York, where she experiences everyday life with wide-eyed enthusiasm. On a whim, she rents a room from Titus, a gay wannabe Broadway actor, who makes ends meet as a street performer in Times Square. The unlikely pair find they’re well-suited to help each other out, with Titus reintroducing Kimmy to modern life, and her providing him with the inspiration that you should never give up. Together they’ll make it through whatever life throws at them.”

What I’m Reading…

I picked this book up because, like I mentioned before, I am nosey & I love to read about people’s lives and where they came from. I am a fan of Tiffany Haddish, but not fan of the way this book is written. Ok, so you do get to take a glimpse of the struggles that she fought through, and about her rise to fame in general, but this book that was hard to muscle through. It read just like you hear her talk, and it was a bit, “all over the place”. I have to admit, that wore me out! If you are a fan and just want to know more about Tiffany, then go for it. But for the avid reader who looks for more structure in their reading, I say, “don’t do it”. This does in no way take away from her as a person, but whomever signed off on this writing style needs a whoopin! IJS.

I pray that you all have a great weekend, and hope that you come back for more on Monday! Happy listening, watching, & reeading!

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Blessings,

Kellie

Friendships

My PERSON, Yolanda & I, celebrating her “Fiddy Fiesta”(Her 50th)

Good Morning, Friends!

A few years back, my good friend Yolanda sent me a book, by mail mind you, that was titled, Nobody’s Cuter Than You, by Melanie Shankle. I looked it over, and tried to figure out what this book could possibly be about by just reading the title. Knowing Yo like I do, I knew there had to be an underlying motive, but was not in the head space to figure it out at the time. Fast forward 2 years later, I pick this book up again, as I was looking for something to read during my lunch hour, and could not put it down. It centers around two ladies, and a few others, who have been great friends since college, and have shared tons of life experiences along the way. As I read, it made me think of the kind of friend that I am, and the kind of friend(s) I would like to have.

“A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.” Proverbs 27:9

I truly believe that we all need people. There are some that are self proclaimed introverts, that are “loners”, but if they are honest with themselves, a good friend would make a world of difference. I know it is not easy for everyone to put themselves out there, but maybe you could be the one to notice that struggle, and reach out. Some people have a gift for that. My 10 year old daughter, Kori is one of them. She is always seeking out the loner, and befriending them. Makes my Mama heart proud!

There are also those that appear to always have it all together, but often times they don’t, and need someone to check in on them from time to time. I know we all get busy with our own lives, and it’s not feasible to talk everyday, but we definitely need to make the time to love on each other. I have been guilty of getting in my feelings when it seems like relationships are one sided. Me doing all of the reaching out. But how do you think Jesus feels? I know that there are tons of “ONE-SIDED relationships that He could speak on, but does He complain? Does He give up on us? NOPE! Hallelujah for that!!!

I have a good group of girlfriends that we are on a group text together and we share praise reports, prayer requests, & and literal LOLs throughout the day. I also have a group text going with a gang of my first cousins that is constantly a hoot! Never a dull moment with the Holder Clan. We may not always have the ability to get together, but we reach out when we need that QT. A called to action, if you will.

Reach Out. You never know who needs to hear from you….

“It was the beginning of learning that I can’t look to any one person to be my security blanket, and that my value goes deeper than one person’s opinion of me. I learned that friendships are fragile and we need to handle them with respect and reverence.” 
― Melanie Shankle, Nobody’s Cuter Than You: A Memoir about the Beauty of Friendship

My sweet friend Ren & I at her Baby Sprinkle
My Shiny New Sister in Law & I
#shemakesmegeekout
My Girl Waniesha & I at my 40th Birthday Bash
We go back like 4 flats on a Cadillac!

“Some roads we travel in life can feel like the ones that might break us, but that’s why God surrounds us with people who will cheer us on and wipe our tears and listen as we pour out our hearts. Because often, it’s not what you say but what you do that really matters.” 
― Melanie Shankle

ALWAYS In Motion

Hello Friends!

I just wanted to take a minute to let you in on a little bit about me. I mentioned before that I was a wife and mother of 4, but did I mention that I have ALWAYS got something going on? I was just sitting here thinking to myself, “Dang! There is never a time when I don’t have some sort of event that I’m planning for”. I just have to remind myself that taking it one thing at a time, is the best way to execute it. I take down notes as things come to me. I keep a calendar of all things important, and enlist help where help is needed. I DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM ASKING FOR HELP!  I am currently in the process of wrapping up plans for a Women’s Retreat with some great girlfriends for March. I am dead center in the planning of a Spring Break getaway, and a Summer vacation for my crew. I’m also setting a few things in motion for April & September, not to mention that I work full time. Wait, did I mention that I have a husband and 4 kids???? (Didn’t want you to forget about that). I say all of this to make this point. My mind is always in motion, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I enjoy planning and organizing, and putting things in place. I also enjoy watching others enjoy themselves, and knowing that with God’s help with His gift to me, I played a role in that. It’s like when my husband Damon cooks dinner, he will bring me something to sample, and awaits my reaction. He is an awesome cook , so of course it’s good, and he knows it….

These tasks sometimes feel like a burden, because it’s expected that I handle these things, but at the end of the day, I am the First Born, the Big Sister, the Mama, the Wife, the Social Director, etc., and I wear all of these hats with pride.  Have you ever read about certain characteristics of the first born? Check these out….

Characteristics of Firstborn Children:

  • Independent.
  • Leaders.
  • Caring.
  • Reliable.
  • Conscientious.
  • Structured.
  • Cautious.
  • Controlling (sometimes seen as bossy) HA!
  • Achievers.
  • Want to excel at everything.
  • Bask in parent’s attention.

I believe that I check all of those boxes and then some. And yes. I’ll own bossy, too!

Are there things that you find yourself ALWAYS doing? Do you secretly love doing them? It’s ok. I understand. Let’s just be real with ourselves, shall we?

Deep Thoughts, with Kellie…. If you truly desire a “thing”, you have to take the steps to acquire the “thing”. God has always got the final say, but when you pray on the said “thing”, you can’t just sit idly by and wait on the “thing” to happen. You have got to put it in motion. HE’s got your steps ordered, and will never let you down. Things happen for a reason, and there is no such thing as a happenstance, ya know? Like my blog title states, DON’T JUST TALK ABOUT IT, BE ABOUT IT!

Introducing….ME!

Hello All! My name is Kellie White, and I want to welcome you to my shiny new blog spot! I am super excited to invite you on this journey with me. I decided to start this blog, simply because I wanted to share the crazy cool things that I come across from time to time. I am a bargain shopper extraordinaire, as well as what my girlfriends group calls me, The Friendly Neighborhood Social Director. I love crafting and creating lesser expensive ways do acquire the more expensive items that we sometimes desire. With this blog, I plan to share with you my fabulous finds, life hacks, decorating tips & tricks, some DEEP thoughts, short stories, planning & organizing, and so much more. Please stay tuned, as I aim to please.

A little about me… I am a married mother of 3 beautiful daughters and 1 handsome son. My husband Damon is my absolute best friend, and our love for the Lord is what keeps me going on a day to day basis. I pray that my little contribution to the world wide web will be something that could possibly inspire you to do something different, live your best life, and not just talk about it, but BE about it!